I often think that I am a pain in the ass and a little bit crazy. These days, as my school anxiety is hitting the roof, I have to take some time to reflect on my personality and mitigate the trouble spots.
I have my "personality" profile information that I sometimes use to diffuse my angst. I am a solid INTJ - and while I haven't completely figured out how to leverage my skills they are there.
Then this time around I found an interesting website that had a list of things to keep in mind when dealing with someone like ME - and they rang true. So as I am about to go off the deep-end it is probably helpful for my friends and coworkers to keep these in mind...
Be willing to back up your statements with facts - or at least some pretty sound reasoning.
Try not to be repetitive. It annoys them.
Do not feed them a line of bull.
Expect debate. INTJs like to tear ideas apart and prove their worthiness. They will even argue a point they don't actually support for the sake of argument.
Do not mistake the strength of your conviction with the strength of your argument. INTJs do not need to believe in a position to argue it or argue it well. Therefore, it will take more than fervor to sway them.
Do not be surprised at sarcasm.
Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions. They are extremely open-minded to possibilities, but they will quickly discard any idea that is unfeasible. INTJ open-mindedness means that they are willing to have a go at an idea by trying to pull it apart. This horrifies people who expect oohs and ahhs and reverence. The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea is to ignore it, because that means it's not even interesting enough to deconstruct.
Do not expect INTJs to actually care about how you view them. They already know that they are arrogant bastards with a morbid sense of humor. Telling them the obvious accomplishes nothing.
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